[server] extract creating a new cnxset in a _new_cnxset() helper So we can move logic specific to _CnxSetPool here.

[server] avoid a possible race condition on _CnxSetPool.close() The pool could become empty between time to check and time to use.

[server] extract "no pooler" CnxSet class to a _BaseCnxSet class So we get rid of "if self._queue is None" in each method of _CnxSetPool Also add helper get_cnxset(source, size) to instantiate the correct pooler class.